Mutah Marriage

wa alaykum as salaam wa rahma!

Thank you for your questions! 

If by misyar marriage, you mean a marriage in which a husband and wife mutually forgoes certain rights--its permissibility would depend on the nature of the rights they forgo. If the rights are those stipulated by Allah, it would be impermissible to forgo these rights whether they mutually agree or not. Imam al-Haadi (as) says in his Ahkaam in the section entitled "Concerning the man who marries a woman and stipulates that she financially maintains him and gives him her dowry as well as the woman who stipulates that she be given the right of intercourse and divorce":

The stipulations of Allah take precedence over their stipulations. The right of divorce is his, the right of intercourse is his, the obligation of financial maintenance is his, the dowry is hers and she makes no such stipulation. If a man marries a woman and asks for her dowry and stipulates financial maintenance upon her and she does it, it would be considered a favour from her. If she does not go through with financially maintaining him then her financial maintenance would be obligatory on him: whether he keeps her or divorces her. Similarly, if he stipulates that she provide her own lodging, this cannot be carried out by him.

If by urfi marriage, you mean a marriage without guardians--this is considered impermissible according to the imams of Ahl al-Bayt (Ref. Ahkaam). 

If by urfi marriage, you mean a marriage with guardians and witnesses but held in secret from the wider community--this is also apparently prohibited according to Imam al-Haadi (as) in his Ahkaam: 

It has also been related that Allah’s Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him and his progeny, prohibited secret marriages. And it has been related that he, peace and blessings be upon him and his progeny, passed by the house of one of the Anšār one day. In it he heard a sound and asked ((What is this?)) It was said to him: “O Messenger of Allah, so-n-so got married.” He replied: ((Praise be to Allah! This is a marriage not a whoredom! Celebrate the marriage!)) 

It could be that by 'prohibited' the imam means discouraged, but this is the apparent wording in the text.

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And Allah knows best!

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