The Eleventh Type: Cajolery
It is a reason and obstacle for not making friendship with the protected friends of Allah and for not antagonizing the enemies of Allah, as well as for not being angry with whoever commits the forbidden crimes that Allah has forbade. It is a great matter that has a lot of great evil. It spreads through all creation, especially in this age.
It is true definition is to disregard the evil deed of someone to avoid the anger of its doer. The reason of this is either for fearing of the doer to hurt him in his self, money, or honour (women or children etc.,); or because he has greed and tend for prestige or money.
Yes, he can stop doing this, if he knows and believes that fearing Allah, exalted be He, is more important than fearing the people. As He, exalted be He, is the refuge in time of the occurrence of the great disasters. The people are weak they can neither avail you nor harm you, except when Allah wants the contrary of this. The conclusion is that whoever keeps promoting the good and prohibiting the evil keeps the one away from cajolery. As the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him and his progeny, said: ((Meet the disobedient with frowned faces)). This proves that whoever cannot stop a disobedient one by saying or by deed because he is unable to do so, he must not smile and be relaxed when he meets the disobedient committer of abominable sinful deeds. But, if he was able to forbid him and did so, then he will not be obliged to leave him and be rude with him.
Yes, there is no blame in feeding the disobedient and eating from his food and similar things, but this should be accompanied with showing the hatred of the sinful deeds that he commits and to do the obligation of giving him pieces of advice as well as to deny and dispraise his bad deeds. It is not considered from cajolery to honour the people of honour from the disobedient intending to make them repent and return to the right or to ask them to support the rightness and repudiating the injustice as well as for other religious benefits. As his, peace and blessings be upon him and his progeny, deeds with the disbelievers in this regard are famous and known. He had spread out his gown for a group of them. But in case of honouring whoever is described with this for a benefit that is related to the majority, like collecting a benefit or preventing an injury from them, then it is not allowed. It is considered an abominable deed to honour them intending to avail them or to defend them against harm, and the similar aspects of friendship.
From the forbidden types of this kind is to have friendship with the unjust governors, walking to them, honouring them and to congratulate them for the reasons that we previously mentioned. However, in case of walking to them to only preach to them, reminding, or enjoining the good or for similar purposes, then there will be no blame regarding this. The condition is that he must know and be certain of his intention, and that it must not appear that he is honouring the oppressor, or else he will be obliged to leave this as the harm contradicts with the benefit.
Yes, if the oppressor walks to the righteous or to the scholar to honour him, then he will not be blamed for honouring him, receiving a reward from him, or for religious benefits. An example is when he is enjoined to honour the righteous ones only in case of this benefit does not contradict with a bigger corruption or an equivalent corruption. Regarding feeding them and hosting them intending to do charity and good to them and not intending to honour them, then it shall be allowed.
I only prolonged the explanation for this type because of the inadvertence and negligence of the people about it; and because they do not feel ashamed of making friendships with the enemies of Allah, flattering them and honouring them. However, they even think that the honour is reached by getting close to them by any possible mean, although the Honour is only for Allah, His Prophet, and the believers.
